From my first encounter with Mr. Darcy I thought I had discovered something incredible. A nearly-perfect type of man. I began to look for him in the faces and actions of my brothers- not in romantic ways necessarily, but just in the ways they treated me and the girls around them. I expected them to be like a fictional character created over 200 years ago. That is completely unfair to them! It is also self-centered of me. We need to step away from the fictional man ideal that is just as bad as men's physically perfect woman. It is our job to encourage men to godliness. In comparing them to unreal men, we are doing just the opposite- discouraging them.
If you're at all into the Twilight books or the movie that hit the box office this weekend, or even if you know someone who watches/reads them, please check this article out:
It is a must read for Christian ladies young and old. I was convicted by reading it and I've never even picked up the books or watched the trailer to the movies.
In the past few years, as I've encountered godly marriages and spoke to wives, I've thrown away my dreams of Mr. Darcy (actually, I'm just using him as an archetype, he's not even my favorite Austen hero). I've realized that we don't want men that are madly in love with us enough to think of us every waking moment and bring us flowers and whisper sweet nothings in our ears. That's idolatry and it's a sin! What we do want is men who are putting Christ first in their lives, admitting their sin and treating us with purity and respect, but not worship!
Check out the article and let me know your thoughts!